The
Romanian
a memoir
by Bruce Benderson
(fragment)
For Remy
Have you sunk into so deep a stupor,
that you're only happy in your unhappiness? If that's the case, let
us fly to countries that are counterfeits of death.
--Baudelaire .
The
sex instinct created a world of its own which was outside the
Party’s control and which therefore had to be destroyed if possible.
--George Orwell
VIII
(…)
Homosexuality is
no longer illegal in Romania per se. In 1996, under pressure from
the then 40-nation Council of Europe, Romania amended the language
of its sodomy law, known as Article 200. Formerly, the law forbade
homosexuality in all situations; but at the time of this writing it
still called for prosecution in cases of a "public scandal." Because
the term "public scandal" is so vague, it can mean anything from
having sex in a public toilet to forgetting to close the curtains as
you kiss your partner good morning. And because the law explicitly
condemns proselytizing for the legitimacy of homosexuality, it could
certainly be brought to bear on anyone thought to have corrupted
another into a homosexual relationship.
Currently, public
pressure seems to have softened. But popular conservative opinion,
linked to the Orthodox Church, still sees homosexuality as a western
corruption, threatening to poison the country and endanger the
growth of its population.
In the mid
nineties, the prosecution of the homosexual life style in Romania
was grisly. Police in small cities and towns sometimes offered the
most flagrant queen amnesty in exchange for helping them hunt out
more closety homosexuals. Or else the information came from a family
member. A well-known case is one from 1992 involving Ciprian Cucu,
who was in his last year of high school, and Marian Matascu, who was
twenty-two.
The two young men, who met through a coded newspaper ad published in
Timiºoara, lived in the town of Sînnicolau Mare, with Cucu’s family.
Their love affair was intense and secret. But Cucu’s sister and her
husband began to suspect, and when the sister discovered Cucu’s
revealing diary, she went for the only help she could think of—the
police. During the interrogation, Cucu denied everything, but
Matascu confessed. The police confronted the “whore Cucu,” as they
termed him, with the diary, and he, too, broke down.
Trying to
establish without a doubt who was the active and who the passive
partner, which the prosecutor and the forensic doctor insisted were
essential to the case, the interrogators forced Cucu and Matascu to
undergo painful examinations of their genital and rectal areas.
Finally, due to pressure from Amnesty International and the Romanian
Helsinki Committee, the two were released and got suspended
sentences. But by that time, both men had served jail time. Matascu
was suffering from a severe skin infection that had erupted on his
legs. Cucu was banished from high school and not allowed to finish
the last year. The reason was ostensibly too many absences, but he
later learned it was because his life style was considered an
unhealthy influence. Matascu commited suicide.
In a few of my
many fantasies about Romulus, I’d considered the possibility of
blackmail. I’d heard accounts of it in the gay world now and then. A
few American gays had been subject to extortion by ex-members of the
Communist Secret Police, in regions where draconian laws against
homosexuality were still in effect. What would happen, I remember
wondering, if his impoverished parents convinced him to set up a
sham police sting with a local former member of the Securitate? The
fake charge could be propositioning and sexual corruption of a
citizen. Like Cucu and Matascu, I might be beaten and held in a
deserted barracks, while Romulus played innocent, explaining to me
that the only way to get out of this was by having my traumatized
mother wire huge sums of money.
However, this
fantasy wasn’t connected in my mind with a moral defect on Romulus’
part. It had become all too clear to me that there’s a kind of life
that by some historical accident is born into a mess, which leads,
paradoxically, to more and more messes of the person's own making,
for him and for those around him. Finally, I was aware that just a
glimpse into such dead-end trajectories can brand the heart of an
outsider like mine and lead to all sorts of entanglements. Society
is structured to prevent the toxic effect of any meaningful contact
with these people. But once you’ve crossed over, there isn’t any
turning back from that reality.
Even so, each
time these dark worries came up, they would again drown in the sea
of my passion. I’d all but forget them, immersed instead in schemes
to get to Romania, to create a future for Romulus by making him some
money or to make my mother or friends understand or even envy my
passion. My blinding visions and sudden eclipses were like
Coleridge’s as I skated from Symbolist fantasies of perverse bliss
with Romulus to demoralized cloak-and-dagger concoctions of
betrayal. My dream worlds had no logical connection with each other,
unless it was the connection between polar opposites, inexplicable
joy or sudden fear. Shuttling from one state to the other, I’d
squeamishly shade my eyes from the light of a Manhattan street, or
close them against the sun coming into my bedroom window. On damp
sheets, my body twitched with memories of our past encounters and
visions of our future. Despite the dysfunctional state of things,
and despite the current normalizing politics engulfing culture, I
still saw my homosexuality as a narrative of adventure, a chance to
cross not only sex barriers but class barriers, while breaking a few
laws in the process. Otherwise, it occurred to me, I’d rather be
straight.
IX
Here on Piaþa
Victoriei in Bucharest, Romulus has zero patience for the street
urchins, those grimy kids who attach their suckered tentacles to us
every time we step out of the hotel. With eyes shiny and hard as
pebbles, glistening with a paint-thinner high, they never stop their
operatic chant for a handout, appealing to us and the Savior in
whines, or wailing soft sophistic arguments about charity. They grab
the hem of our jackets and let themselves be dragged along until
Romulus shoos them away with curses sounding like a witch’s
imprecations.
One of the more
articulate, who likes to play soccer with a balled-up newspaper
after he’s sniffed thinner, constantly catches my attention. He acts
courageous but strikes me as slightly oversensitive, a pouty mouth
and a luxurious mop of shiny hair cresting his chocolate brown eyes.
“Why can’t we
kind of adopt just one while we’re here?” I ask Romulus. “Set aside
20 dollars a week.”
He chortles at
my naiveté. “Go ahead. Try. Give to him first installment.”
I take out five
dollars and the boy pounces on it, inhaling it deep into his stained
athletic suit. If he does mumble a thank you, it’s quickly curtailed
by the torrent of begging for more. Suddenly, though, he’s ripped
backward onto the grass in front of the Benetton store, as four
other kids furiously attack him for a share of the take. Limbs
cartwheel and small bodies roll through the grass as yelps of pain
come from the jumble. Romulus shouts out to stop, like an athletic
coach, but they ignore him, and he meets my eyes for a moment with a
look of being right. “You see what happens?” he says, clucking his
tongue.
“But they’re
homeless.”
“I do not believe
it for any moment. I as kid did same.”
As soon as I saw
him striding across the busy street in front of the Bulevard Hotel,
at that strange, unsettling moment when fantasy suddenly becomes
flesh, I realized things had taken a step forward. We hadn’t seen
each other for six weeks. This time he looked older and more
purposeful and was carrying his own luggage, a gym bag with a couple
pairs of shirts and two pairs of underwear. He’d come to the Gellért
for my last visit with nothing but a razor.
The Bulevard, our
nineteenth century hotel, is in a perplexing state of disrepair. The
sour desk clerk looked past our heads with veiled contempt when we
filled out the registration. The lobby didn’t feel like that of any
hotel I’d ever been in. Among the marble columns and the strange
series of vases attached to the walls, which I later found out had
held surveillance microphones during the Ceauºescu era, were
stone-faced, bulky men in black suits like those I’d seen at the bar
in Budapest. Cher-look-alike beauties in black designer miniskirts,
their shiny hair cut Louise-Brooks style and long legs ending in
gleaming sling-back shoes, lounged panther-like on the scattered
banquettes, scrutinizing us with tinges of hope but mostly
undisguised boredom. Every once in a while, a cell phone would ring.
One of the thuggish guys would extract it from his suit and answer
it, and one of the girls would leave. It seemed like a pretty active
hustling operation.
Our immense
circular room has four bay windows. It’s high-ceilinged and
aristocratic, except for the fact that the pseudo Louis XVI
furniture keeps collapsing. But with our heavy drapes, mirrored
vanity table and brocade couch, as well as the cavernous round space
of our room, we soon forget about the rest of the world. Eventually
I get the idea of filling a plastic jug with water to make the
pull-chain toilet work; and although no one ever appears to make up
the room, we learn to put our garbage outside.
A lot of phone
numbers have changed in Bucharest shortly before our arrival.
They’re installing an updated system. Not only do we never find out
our real hotel telephone number, but the few contacts I have—such as
film critic Alex Leo ªerban—who’s been recommended by my French
friend, the writer Benoît Duteurtre—turn out to be unreachable. The
old phone numbers just ring and ring, and whatever the new ones are
aren’t listed in the directory.
Our lack of
outside contacts has thrown us into that Cocteauean netherworld of
enfants terribles that worked so well for a while at
the Gellért. There’s no greater accessory to romantic passion than
an absence of context. Within our Traviata-style stage set we
can enact hackneyed plots of sensual laziness, intense sex,
encroaching boredom and jealousy. Our first sturm und
drang occurs even before we’ve unpacked our bags, when I ask
Romulus for one hundred dollars. A couple of weeks before, on the
telephone, he’d said that the last hundred dollars I’d given him in
Budapest had red-felt marker stains along the edges from the bank,
and that no one in Sibiu would change it. He’d asked me to wire an
extra hundred and promised to give me the stained bills back.
“What do you mean
you don’t have them?”
“Not no more.
Finally in bar they agree to change those bills with red.”
“You were
supposed to hold on to them.”
“I did not know I
need them.”
“How in fuck am I
supposed to trust you?”
“Then now I will
leave.”
“Hello? Are you a
pure sociopath? You spent money that you promised you’d give back to
me.”
“Yes, yes, I
needed, you see.”
“I don’t fucking
trust you.”
“Good. I am
leaving because one hundred lousy dollars is enough for you to lose
my faith.”
“Alright. Forget
it.”
“I cannot.”
“What?”
“No.”
“Look, put down
your bag. You’re not going anywhere. Fact, I’m taking it out of the
next sum I give you.”
“Of course.” He
drops the bag to the floor.
He pulls on the
striped velour shirt I’ve bought for him. It brings out the pirate
and makes his black eyes look velvety. It’s almost dark already and
getting windy, so we throw on light jackets.
The hallway is
cavernous and unlit, like the set of Last Year at Marienbad
after 30 years of cobwebs. In the lobby, one of the working girls
follows us with X-ray eyes. Penetrating, bewildered, resentful. We
hit the street, mowing through the begging children clustered at the
entrance.
For me, this city
has a strange Cabinet of Dr. Caligari feeling. You’d imagine
the buildings of Bucharest leaning at weird angles, but, just as is
suggested in those Expressionist films, it’s really your own
grounding that’s off-center. You’re faced again and again with that
amputee, History. Then you yourself begin to feel dislocated.
Dissonant twosome
as we are—he young, lithe, short and sharp-faced with shiny, stony
eyes; me, older, taller and much bulkier, eyes burning—Bucharest
begins to feel like our landscape. It’s part Blade-Runner and
part Boulevard Haussman. Twilight doesn’t seem to come to the city;
it smudges it, I don’t know why. We’re walking past the sumptuous
nineteenth century Cercul Militar and its hopes of Parisian glory.
An elderly woman stops us, her eyes bright with memories, a weird,
wild compassion in her trembling voice. When she finds out we’re
visitors, that we haven’t suffered what she has, it sets something
off. She recalls Bucharest’s old glory for us—the memories seem to
shoot like sparks from her eyes to the tips of her wild, gnarled
hair—she blesses us, begs us, as tourists, to reconstruct the
Bucharest of the past for her by eating at Capºa, a formerly famous
restaurant with velvet and ebony furniture.
As we leave her
and walk up Calea Victoriei, the Haussmanian look of Bucharest
brings back my literary memory of that fantastic promenade during
the teens and 1920s, the days of Lupescu and Carol, when the
seraglio-eyed women in mask-like make-up and dyed fox stoles
sauntered past mustachioed men in severely tailored serge suits,
brilliantined hair and patent leather shoes, puffing oval Turkish
cigarettes with their pouting, gleaming lips that made off-colored
comments about the parade of “possibilities”; but this is suddenly
interrupted by an onion-domed Russian church, sprouting like a
mushroom between two dank housing projects. I make Romulus go into
it with me. Its small, musty interior holds genuflecting women with
covered heads, and gleaming icons, all clustered together with
little walking space.
Back on the
street, wild dogs and even wilder homeless children keep crossing
our paths. A Soviet-style housing project looks like it’s caving
into a new, shiny adjoining bank. Everything looks pieced together
by Crazy Glue, fighting for space and contradicting everything else,
like cubist structures on a baroque wedding cake. Most
interesting to me are the pharmacies. You see, I associate my desire
for Romulus, that sense of dislocation he causes, with the white
tablets I’ve been taking: codeine and hydrocodone that exaggerate my
fantasies of passion and make me forget my anxieties about my
mother’s health; as well as the white lorazepam tranquilizers—also
available—that I’ve begun to swallow to sleep. From the glass-doored
wooden cabinets of the pharmacy we’ve just entered, the
bony-fingered clerk extracts what I tell Romulus to ask for.
Just as exciting
is the discovery of a series of face creams called Gerovital, which
I will begin to use regularly and later maintain have magic
properties. At barely two dollars a jar, they’ll end up filling my
suitcases on every departure from Romania, as requests from friends
for the magic substance multiply. The creams are based on a formula
developed by the legendary and controversial scientist Ana Aslan,
who claimed until her death to have discovered an anti-aging
chemical. Today, all over the world, there are still aging people
swallowing Gerovital pills. I buy several jars of the cream and, of
course, stock up on 50-pill boxes of lorazepam and opiates, leaving
the store with a feeling of flushed excitement.
Calea Victoriei
leads us to a vast square, a kind of crossroads of historical
trauma. There on my left is the palace where Carol’s II Jewish
mistress Lupescu hid behind gauze curtains while Carol, in his white
cloak, raised a toast to her. Now it houses a national museum of
Romanian art. It was the palace in which Carol felt most at home,
whereas his father preferred the more remote Cotroceni, on the
outskirts of the city.
There were rumors
of secret passages running underneath this palace, bringing Lupescu
undetected to Carol at night or allowing Carol to meet secretly with
deal-makers and members of his cabal of scheming advisers.
During the ‘30s,
in an attempt to build a fitting monument to his increasingly
dictatorial style, Carol had the place renovated in that sentimental
English manner known as Palladianism, which attempts to poetically
evoke Roman times. Perplexed by my fascination, Romulus waits
impatiently while I stare at the structure, wondering if anything
remains of the King’s eccentric installations, such as his
electrotherapy chair or his stupendously expensive 1930s California
air conditioning system, which never worked and was designed by an
untalented engineer who turned out to be Lupescu’s cousin, thereby
adding further fuel to accusations of her bleeding the royal
treasury dry.
This is also the
place where one rainy night in 1940 supporters of Romania’s Fascist
Iron Guard came to call for the Jewess’s head, shortly before the
couple went into exile. But that’s not the only occurrence that
makes it feel as if the square on which we’re standing were
shuddering with aftershocks of past violence. The Central University
Library across the street, as well as the Palace, were nearly gutted
by fire during the Revolution of 1989, and thousands of priceless
volumes in the library were reduced to ashes. Behind the library, on
Calea Victoriei, are the charred ruins of a once stately house that
was destroyed during the revolution and left as a reminder. Not far
from both is the wide, stern façade of the old headquarters of the
Communist Party, riddled with bullet holes, from whose roof
Romania’s last dictator Ceauºescu escaped by helicopter. A white
marble plaque points to the spot where it happened, with the words
“Glorie martirilor noºtri” (“Glory to our Martyrs”), in remembrance
of the revolutionaries who lost their lives.
Unaware that
Capºa, the restaurant the old lady mentioned to us, is across the
street from where we met her, we take an eerie cab ride in search of
it through back streets with decaying mansions, whose pitted wooden
columns, stagnant gardens and shady gables keep leading us into dead
ends. After several days we’ll realize that most of the taxi drivers
don’t know where anything is. Giving up on our search, we begin
looking for another restaurant named the Mioriþa, after the primal
Romanian myth. It’s only later that I’ll ponder that myth of a
murdered shepherd and realize how deeply it seems to articulate some
of our experience.
It’s 8 PM
already. Dying of hunger, we hurry shiveringly north of Calea
Victoriei, still in search of a restaurant, past a large
late-nineteenth-century palace fronted by two stone lions. We stop
and stare at the scallop-shaped glass canopy leading to the
entrance, just as the iron gate is being locked by a grizzled man in
a moth-eaten sweater and wool cap. He is, he claims, the conservator
of this museum, the palace of Cantacuzino, where George Enescu, the
famous composer and musician, used to live; and he wonders—looking
us up and down—if we’d like a private tour. We follow him up the
stairs into a terrifying well of pitch blackness, after which he
throws on a series of switches that illuminate heavenly, elegant
rooms of polished wood and stucco, decorated with plaster cherubs,
winged trumpeters and a rosy-fleshed nude sprawled across the
ceiling. Casually, he yanks open cabinets containing the personal
belongings of Mr. Enescu and removes priceless musical scores for us
to examine, finger. He tells us—and this turns out to be confirmed
in a book I will read—Romanian Rhapsody, by Dominique
Fernandez—that Enescu lived here with his wife, a princess named
Maruka, who was a widow of the Boyar Cantacuzino and who kept the
palace in near darkness, due to a disfigured face caused by gasoline
burns she’d inflicted on herself after an unrequited love affair;
that she appeared to the light only when her face was hidden by a
plaster mask. Later I’ll also find out that this Maruka Cantacuzino
was a confidante of Queen Marie.
He takes us to a
smaller house in back of the main building, where he claims the
composer, who was of peasant origins, felt more comfortable and
spent most of his time. It’s only after we’ve thanked him and
bestowed a ten-dollar tip—a two-day salary—that we realize he must
be the night watchman, hoping to make some extra cash.
We make another
attempt to find Mioriþa, and our cab driver gets lost again. The
ride ends in a mud path, where eerie light from an art nouveau
window in the almost pitch-black street illuminates the uniform of a
soldier, who works in this city in conjunction with the police. I
want to ask directions, but Romulus grabs my sleeve and keeps me
from crossing the street. It seems no one asks the police for help.
We cross to the
other side of the street further down, through mud. Why do I feel
that I’ve become lost in a marsh? It’s only later that I’ll find out
Bucharest was built on forested wetlands tangled with roots. Once
across the mud, we find ourselves in front of a large, red Victorian
house that could have belonged to Psycho's Mrs. Bates.
There’s a sign in front of it that says “Opium.” We enter out of
curiosity, and a woman in a revealing red cocktail dress asks us if
we prefer the smoking room (we aren’t sure what substance she’s
referring to), the "bath lounge" or Purgatorio, a room in the
basement with chairs decorated alternately with red devil horns and
white angel haloes. The establishment is owned by the Romanian
actress Ioana Crǎciunescu, whose much younger partner, director
Bogdan Voicu, is working with her to create theater entertainments
for the special few.
There are, says
the manager, weekly performances in the bath lounge, a bordello-red
room featuring an immense golden bathtub. And in the Purgatorio, a
new trend of stand-up comedy in English has begun, because, she
says, Romanian stand-up is just a series of potty jokes. Next door,
in the yellow opium room, there are eerie pantomimes going on among
the Oriental cushions. But there’s no food here. Someone calls us a
taxi and, defeated and hungry, we head back to the hotel.
Too tired to keep
looking for food, we switch on the color television. In front of it
and a seemingly endless soccer match, we learn a series of passional
attitudes designed to fit his smaller, steely body into my padded
bulk. I’m stretched out on my back with him using my stomach as a
cushion, or we lie entwined like two tarantulas, a perfect balance
of lighter on heavier limbs that avoids bone pressure. Or I’ll be
lying belly down with my head by his waist, so that my hands can
wander over his body like tortoises inspecting every blade of grass
on a beach.
Because he
doesn’t complain, I’ve decided we’re in paradise. Visions of him
change, but they’re always highly sexual, with elements of the
predatory. I feel like a falconer with his hawk, that beady-eyed,
sharp-beaked and alert but dependent creature that pecks ever so
carefully at its master. At other times, his sinuous muscles, devoid
as they are of fat, enlace me in the fantasy of a python, our
corkscrew entwinings thrilling me into believing myself some circus
performer who’s ready to chance being strangled for the right to be
caressed. But then every so often, he suddenly diminishes to a poor
wren, for what is the real difference, except in the sense of motive
versus action, between vulnerability and predation?
It’s his
emotional hunger, often presenting itself as stoical machismo, that
keeps promising a trap door into his heart. And as we lie here, the
unreal atmosphere of the room is as disorienting as the description
of some powdery scent in a decadent novel, while snippets of his
fairy-tale past float into the air.
“And then what
happened?”
“Why you want to
know? You will write a book about? The story of my life, such a book
that will make.”
“How you ended up
in Budapest. You were telling me.”
“I got to go to
the toilet. Toss me those cigarettes.”
“Can you hear
me?”
“Say?”
“You were telling
me.”
“They threw me
out at eighteen…”
“Who, who?”
“Say?”
“Can’t you hear
me?”
“My parents, when
is no more money from state for me, even though they keep money they
get for me when I still live with my grandmother. Toss those matches
in here at me, please will you?”
“Your parents
threw you out?”
“Surely. They
fabricate this fight in Vîlcea to make me exit when I was eighteen.
Say I steal from them. Which is how I end up on Corso in Budapest
where you find me. But you know, my stepfather wastes what little
they have for drinking, and soon as I am to coming back, it is money
all the time, they take it from us all, me, Bogdan.”
“But tell me
again about Macedonia. Come on, come back on the bed.”
“Alright, give me
the remote, you know they have this erotic evening on TV every
Friday, they showing one of the Emmanuelle’s.
“I saw them in
the seventies. What’d you say happened in Macedonia?”
“I am crossing
Macedonia two or three times, with two other guys, mostly walking,
you know? They throw us out of train at every stop because they
don’t like our passports, but we just keeping walking and get on at
next station. But then they throw us out again.”
“And that’s how
you made it to Greece?’
“Hm, hmm, three
weeks there, my Greek becoming very functional, but I not write it,
not write any of the languages I speak except Romanian.”
“Did you ever get
caught in Greece?’
“Yes, yes. First
time they send me back in closed train with other illegal Romanians.
But I climb through window at station. Two days later they catching
me again. ‘Let’s see you jump from this window,’ they say. They put
me on a plane. Bring me to plane handcuffed.”
“A regular
plane?”
“Of course. I get
the meal, the drinks. But is November, still warm in Greece and we
land in Bucharest and freezing. I wearing only tee-shirt. Have to
hitchhike back to Sibiu.”
“But what about
the time you got shot crossing from Macedonia into Greece?”
“Which time? I
went over so many times, I start to make money that way, border
guide, you know? I prefer bullets to staying home. Listen, this
Mexican border. I read in a Romanian paper that plenty of people
cross over to U.S.”
“Come on,
Romulus, there are easier ways.”
“You do it your
way, I mine.”
What did history
do to him? The question sounds absurd, for we’re all to some extent
victims of history; but I’m convinced that, as my friend Ursule
Molinaro suspected, Romulus is ancient. His half-finished projects
and sudden departures, his enslavements and sullen betrayals are
micro recapitulations of the fate of his land.
Like my beloved
Times Square, Romania was a crossroads of cultures and
clashes—Byzantine glories, wily Levantine schemes for survival, the
nexus of three empires: the Ottoman, the Austro-Hungarian and the
Soviet. Romanians are, they themselves believe, Latins lost among
the Barbarians, the Roman victims of Turks.
It’s midnight and
we’re finally eating dinner, the only customers in the hotel
restaurant. The mottled marble and enormous mirrors are exquisite,
baroque and unreal, the room cavernous. The way the waiters and
whores who walk through look at us says that we, too, are lost,
isolated. Romulus’s eyes, I can tell, see doom and are perpetually
disgusted by it. But such a stance is overruled by a kind of
courageous passivity, which the Romanian poet Lucian Blaga called
the “Mioritic space.”
According to the
great Romanian myth of Mioriþa, three shepherds from different
regions came down with their flocks from the Carpathian Mountains.
Two of them began to plot to murder the Moldovan shepherd, who was
warned of the plot by Mioriþa, the magical ewe. The shepherd didn’t
flee. With a vast and perplexing sense of spiritual acceptance, he
planned his own funeral, which took on the character of a wedding
with Nature, a return to Eden.
Sociologues have
debated the ancient myth’s meaning since it was published by the
Romantic poet Alecsandri. There are those who have associated it
with pessimism and passivity, going so far as to call Romania a
“suicidal” culture. But Mircea Eliade, the Romanian historian and
mythologist, who may or may not have once been a Fascist, saw the
myth of Mioriþa as an active transformation of fate, the will to
change the meaning of destiny into something self-empowering.
In light of this,
Romulus’ surrender of his body to me takes on a morbid and
transfigured aura. It may be an arrangement of circumstance, but to
him it’s part of a timeless cycle. I can see it in his eyes. His
prostitution has a sacrificial, fateful significance. And so it is
that the fixed expression of his eyes, the angry, almost pious
gentleness of his touch are signs of sacrifice that can’t be
possessed by me. But in any case, the buyer can never possess the
ritual of prostitution.
His face is
getting paler during dinner as I flounder to stake a claim,
shamelessly offering him long-term financial schemes as if they were
car insurance. The obsessive-compulsive nature of my feelings for
him makes me spit out vulgar maintenance plans whose function is to
take away the guess-work of our relationship. I want marriage
instead of doom. Each of my offers is an insult to his ritualistic
approach to transgression. He’s getting more and more furious at my
attempts to buy him.
This attack of
mine has temporarily obliterated his machismo. Back in our room, he
strikes me as a little boy, an effeminate one, as he angrily throws
his few possessions into a bag. Now I must beg him to stay yet
again, which subjects me to the domain of ritual. And so, we’re back
in our trance once more. He puts down his bag.
It’s 2 AM and
we’ve decided to have a drink at a toney club we noticed in our
wanderings. It’s called Byblos and features a fancy restaurant with
near New York prices and live entertainment. How can I explain the
despairing rage that fills Romulus at the sight of its Armani-clad
clientele? This isn’t simple resentment of the bourgeoisie on the
part of an outsider, an underclass person, but something even more
inherently political. His rage is, in part, Communist. It could even
be interpreted as a kind of prudishness. But Romulus is himself in
many ways a crass materialist who dreams of killer sound systems and
flashy cars. Even so, the discipline and conservatism of real
wealth, such as that exhibited by the privileged young people in
this bar, crushes his spirit. What repulses him the most is the lack
of Mioritic sacrifice in the comfortable life style of the young
people around him. He’s looking at the faces of children of
politicians or publishers and knows what strategies their parents
have employed to achieve such security in this impoverished country.
He wants to put out the eyes of their children, whose blandness
negates all the wisdom of his suffering. Once again, his rage leaves
me feeling helplessly inferior. There’s nothing I can do but
slavishly admire this odd man out of global capitalism.
Back at the
hotel, he strips for bed and I gobble two of my fortuitous codeine
tablets. I know what my duty is. Within an hour, I’m in that
sparkling night gallery made of little explosions of codeine. It
blots out most of the sociological details surrounding our
situation, leaves only his hard, shadowy body mysteriously laid out
for me, dappled by the streetlight piercing the gaps in the heavy
curtains. This is a funereal, or should I say, vampiric scene. I
fall to my knees in the darkness because I know that to worship his
abjection is to drink at the fount of cultural doom and play at
entwining my fate with his. He’s a door out of the repetitive
banalities of North American capitalism. His penis plunges into my
throat like an eel into inky water.
All details reported by the intrepid Scott Long, in PUBLIC
SCANDALS: Sexual Orientation and Criminal Law in Romania; A
report by Human Rights Watch and the International Gay and
Lesbian Human Rights Commission.
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